1. The Inability to Say "No": Over-committing and Losing Your Boundaries

You feel uncomfortable refusing a colleague's request for help. Over time, your workload grows, while theirs shrinks. You're giving your time and energy, but you're not getting the recognition you deserve. Worse, you've made people so accustomed to your "niceness" that when you finally do say no, they might accuse you of "changing." Learning to set boundaries and clearly stating when you're available is a form of self-respect and professional integrity.

2. Fear of Conflict: Afraid to Express a Different Opinion

During a meeting, you have a better idea for a project, but you stay silent because you're worried about causing conflict with your boss or colleagues. This "harmony" you're creating is actually a missed opportunity to showcase your value. Healthy conflict and debate are crucial for progress in the workplace. Bravely presenting your viewpoint, backed by data and facts, not only gets your ideas heard but also demonstrates your professional competence and independent thinking.

3. Habitual Apologies: Always Saying "Sorry" or "Excuse Me"

Before you state your opinion, do you often say, "Sorry, but I have an idea..."? When you need to ask for a favor, do you start with, "Sorry, could you help me with..."? These habitual apologies can subconsciously undermine your confidence and authority. You haven't done anything wrong, so why apologize? From now on, express your thoughts and needs directly and confidently.

4. Over-Sharing Personal Feelings: Treating Colleagues Like Best Friends

While colleague relationships are important, they are not the same as friendships. Sharing your negative emotions about work, your frustrations with your boss, or even personal family matters can drain your social energy and make you a target for office gossip. Learning to manage your emotions and keep your professional and personal lives separate is key to maintaining your workplace image and professionalism.

The workplace is not a social club; it's a place to demonstrate your value and skills. Stop these "people-pleaser" habits and focus your energy on self-improvement. Remember, your worth is not proven by being "liked," but by your abilities and contributions.